With Prom Proposals in full force now (or "hunting season" as my guy friends call them) here area few ideas on how to a) accept the proposal b) gently say "no thank you" or c) think about it (not because you don't want to go with them, just because you don't want to put yourself in a bad situation. This is usually reserved for the stalker proposal. See below)A Prom proposal could be the most exciting thing ever, or the moment when you just want to run away from your stalker and hopes he isn't filming this moment to replay it over and over and over again. I'll get to ideas a and b in a second, but for now, let's focus on Mr. Stalker. (Or Miss Stalker, in case any manly men are reading this.)
Here's a scenario that you want to avoid at all costs: the stalker proposal. The stalkers usually mean well and just really really really (REALLY) like you, but, unknown to them, they come off as incredibly creepy. This happens far too often.
Here's the situation: Sally and Bill are friends. They met in math class last year, and chat a little. Bill likes to text Sally at least once a day, usually just "hello". The first few times, it was nice and they had a friendly conversations. Bill decides he loves Sally. So, he keeps texting her. Sally sometimes texts back, but she's starting to feel like, OK Bill, get a life. Finally, Bill is texting her daily, often two to three times a day, then facebook chatting her whenever she goes on, and finally, he gets her video chat name. Keep in mind, you only find out someones video chat when you either a) search their name in a database of roughly ten million people, or b) they give it to you.
So there Sally is, doing her homework one Sunday night, and Bill video chats her. She is just creeped out and ignores it. Then, he texts her with the question," so, what would you think if I decided to become an animal trainer for the circus?" Bill is serious. Sally is just creeped out, not because Bill is a weird, shady kind of guy, but because he is constantly talking to her and trying to get her attention.
The next day, Monday, Sally walks into school, and in the senior courtyard, there is a huge sheet billowing in the wind with the question, "Sally, will you go to Prom with me? - Bill". Then Bill pops out of a hallway and says,"Sally, I know you saw my sign. I've been watching you intensively over the last two months and I've decided that you are the girl for me. I want to take you to Prom. I've known my feeling for you now for a while, and I'm acting on them. This is no impulse action, I have been planning this moment for weeks. Please accept my proposal to this dance that I promise will change your life."
Wow. Talk about a prom proposal!
On one hand, Sally is flattered, and she finds his effort really sweet. But on the other hand, she thinks, That was one of the creepiest things in my entire life. What should Sally do?
Here are our options:
Option A) she can go with him, feel awkward the majority of the time because Bill is trying to make the moves on her, and end the evening with many creepy stories to tell.
Option B) Sally replies, "oh my Penguins! You are such a creeper! Leave me alone! I don't like you, I never will and you are the weirest person on this planet! Can you just go find someone else to creep on, or better yet, just leave?"
Option C) Say, "Wow, that is so kind of you. I'm flattered. That was quite a prom proposal! I don't want to lead you on in saying yes, because I only see us as friends. But, I would love to go with you! You're really nice, and no one has ever made that much effort to ask me to anything. I'm flattered. Thank you so much!"
Now, I personally would choose Option C for obvious reasons. One, because it's getting the point across that she only wants to be friends and she says upfront that she doesn't want to lead him on. Two, because she is flattered, and she tells him that, so he feels accomplished. And three, because she says yes. It's just a nice thing to do. And, honestly, he would be crushed if you turned him down, then Mr. Tall, Dark and Handsome asked you the next day with roses and you gleefully throw yourself at him, while screaming, "OMG, I WOULD LOVE TO GO WITH YOU! I HOPED YOU WOULD ASK ME!" Not even a stalker deserves that type of rejection.
Oh, rejection... sometimes it's necessary for whatever reason (there better be a darn good reason too!) Some ok reasons to say, "no, thank you" to a Prom Proposal are the following:
- you will not be able to attend Prom
-you already have a date (although I'm sure the person asking you knows if you do or not)
-you do not want to put yourself in a bad situation (this is usually reserved for the 18 year old senior asking the 14 year old freshman)
Here is the way to break the news to your asker, "I'm so sorry, I_______ (can't go to prom, already have a date, you're a weird 18 year old guy who I've heard does some "bad" things and I don't want to be apart of that). I was so kind of you to ask me though, and I'm flattered!"
Other than that, just go with the first person who asks you! It's the classiest thing to do.
Since we have gotten past the worst of the worst, let's move on to the proposal from the man of your dreams, or just a really good friend. Basically, either way, you'll say yes. (Now, if you really good friend happens to be your stalker, please see the above paragraphs.)
If you go with your really good friend, you're guaranteed a fantastic time! It'll be really fun, there will be no awkward tension, and you'll leave with a smile on your face.
If you go with the man of your dreams, it will either go two ways:
A) it will be the most awkward thing EVER and you'll never want to see him again
B) it will be the most magical evening EVER and you'll float home on a cloud
(I'm a big believer of B.)
In either case, both of the ending start off with one thing: The Proposal. We all know if your friend asks you or if your dream date asks you, there is one thing for sure: you will say yes. But, how will you say yes?
You could....
- jump into their arms as he (or she) twirls you around, while screaming, "YES YES YES!!"
- smile, give them a big hug and say, "Of course I'd love to go with you!"
-pull out the good old, "wow that is so kind of you, I'm flattered, thank you so much for asking me, etc." Then concluding the schpele with, "I would love to go with you!"
Whatever Prom Proposal you receive, just remember, it will be a night you will remember for a very long time. Prom will be lots of fun, you will look stunning, and remember, all the fun starts with the Proposal!
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